finding balance

{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

you’re the only one

If you ask anyone I know from family members, former classmates and colleagues, my relentless work ethic is something that might be admirable though borderline dangerous. There have been many sleepless nights in my life that I’m not too proud of. I’ve pushed myself to the extreme, which has negatively impacted my health and the integrity of my work. It was only about 8 months ago did I made a vow to incorporate new habits into my life that eases me into a more balanced lifestyle.

Before we dive in, I think it’s important to define what it means to live a ‘balanced’ life as everyone’s circumstances and priorities are different. With that said, as your life evolves over time, be sure to continue to change your definition. In December, I realized that my life was becoming a lot more stable than what it was in the past. I wasn’t moving from state-to-state or to a different country as often, my work load was consistent, my days were scheduled by myself too—I was in full control. So for me, achieving a ‘balanced life’ meant to be able to walk away from my work and focus on things that made me happy and enhanced my well-being…
 

{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs {finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

disconnect

We are all victim to our mobile devices and it’s easy to get drawn into the Facebook shenanigans, but it’s very important to switch off your tech devices. Consider the process of being able to switch everything off as part of the meditative process. I try to practice this 3 nights a week where I switch everything off at 9pm and focus on things like reading or just spending time with my flatmates or friends.

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{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs {finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

say no

When I moved to London I was a serial “yes” sayer. I would agree to everything and even double book myself on purpose and try to make both events. The reason I would do this was to keep myself from missing home and after being idle so long, I wanted to go out and do something fun in my new city! This was exhausting and I found myself doing more things for others than myself.

your health

This is a bit easier for me to do since I’ve yet to have a family of my own, but looking after my own health has been a blessing. I got severely sick back in March from overworking myself. That was the first time that I had intentionally made myself sick and it scared me. Since then, I take time to eat without working and sleep more than just a few hours a night coupled with a healthy diet and a fun fitness regimen, it has done wonders. You can find my fitness routines on Snapchat ID: chevronseclairs.
 

{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs {finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

solo time

I mention the importance of solo time so much and almost in every lifestyle post. It’s true, a bit of alone time helps reduce stress/anxiety, encourage creativity, and gives you time to meditate, read, write, sketch and engage your hobbies. Stopping all the thoughts in your head is the best gift you can give yourself, trust me. I’ve been loving my escapes to the countryside and took this one to Wiltshire’s luxury hotel, Bishopstrow Hotel for the very reason to get alone time.

support

Spending quality time with friends and family, date night with the significant other, and evenings with the girlfriends are all something I try to prioritize as much as possible. Especially because my business goes through cycles of long periods of a hectic schedule and short periods of ease. Along with that, with life changes and experiences bring all sorts of people in and out of your life. Living in DC, New York City and now London, I’ve met some very interesting people. This sounds ruthless, but I continue to edit my life and relationships and tend to get rid of unsupportive people, whiners, people with poor attitudes and people who can’t provide anything meaningful to my life. Those people, in turn, will bring you down and suck your soul dry.
 

{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs {finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs {finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

treat yourself

With each paycheck I usually split it three ways to spend on everyday necessities, to put into my savings, and a travel bank. Treating yourself is the ultimate form of “balance” in my book and a nice holiday every once in a while is incredibly therapeutic.

chevrons & éclairs was a guest at Bishopstrow Hotel, but all opinions are my own.
 

{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs
{finding balance} via chevrons & éclairs

  • Lindsay Katherine

    I love that you recognize that your strength of a strong work ethic can also get in the way and that you take much-deserved time for yourself. I think it’s a great way to split your money, and I firmly believe in treating yourself!!

    • It’s only something I realized recently when I was literally working 24/7. I guess that comes with a start-up life, but really happy with the balance I currently have <3

  • What a lovely place to stay! I am so with you on going on vacation – the change of pace is always quite nice.

    http://www.deasynoel.com

    • Oh definitely! Things are sooooo slow in the countryside. My OCD-self gets a bit overwhelmed at times, but since visiting a few manors, I’m definitely getting it all together.

  • Balance over burnout! It’s so important to distinguish “balance” in one’s life, although sometimes not easy. I often find that writing down my definition of balance on a piece of paper helps remind me what I need to accomplish.

    • So true! I don’t think the balance thing is really easy at all. It takes a certain type of person to be able fully achieve it. I go through cycles, but right now I think I’m doing a good job of compartmentalizing my responsibilities.

  • Paige Allison

    Yes to saying no! If that makes sense, haha. But I’m huge on saying no these days. Life is chaotic enough with two littles running around, sorry but no I don’t have time to attend your fundraiser or your launch party. I hope to be able to be that person again at some point, just not right now. And despite being a huge extrovert, you’re so right about alone time. It’s needed by EVERYONE. I really think that’s the hardest part about becoming a mom… I don’t even get to go to the bathroom alone these days!

    • That does make sense! I am a HUGE extrovert since moving to London especially. I think alone time helps with forcing you to notice why you need to slow down or rest. I love that you’ve acknowledged that you want to be an awesome mom now and will get back to that “previous life” later! Good on you!

  • Tiffany {A Touch of Grace}

    I have learned this last year to say no more and it’s so freeing! It’s hard at first, but I just don’t have time for it all anymore. Self care, alone time, time with loved ones, all these are so great Supal. Your work ethic is admiral my dear but you’re so right, it can be detrimental to your health as well. Glad you’re able to find a balance.

  • I’ve been disconnecting since going back to work- between my teaching job, two kids, & the blog I was definitely burning out! The blog has taken a backseat but I’ve found that I enjoy treating it as a hobby & it’s freeing to not have to care about what I’m posting and when to Instagram! I think everyone has to find their version of balance.

    • I noticed that! Good for you for prioritizing! It may feel like a sacrifice now, but your family will definitely appreciate it! x

  • Hanna

    I LOVE all this photography. Disconnecting can be a good thing –Hanna Lei

    Latest Post: Arabian Gulf Style Baked Chicken Recipe

  • Seriously this looks like a fairytale! Thank you for sweeping me away into another world with this post.

  • Supal, this was such a good post. I have been struggling a lot lately trying to not overwork myself and drive myself and my family crazy. What you said is so true it is all about balance. Really good tips!

    • Oh I bet! I’m glad you were able to find this post helpful! You’ve had a crazy summer, try and take a moment for yourself!

  • Thank you! x

  • Taking time for you and away from work is so important. Thanks for sharing! xx, Erin – http://www.stylebythepeople.com

  • Nicole Nelson

    Thank you for shedding light on such a timely, yet often avoided, topic! I’m so glad you could have some time alone to unwind. Your work ethic is astounding, but definitely requires the odd break here and there.
    Also, your hair! ?

    • So glad the post was helpful and hopefully fruitful to you too! And how crazy is the hair change? I mean… it’s already growing out though 🙁 #HairyIndianGirlProblems

      • Nicole Nelson

        It definitely was, mate, thanks!
        Hahaha I feel ya. It looks so good though, such a shame it’s gonna take so much upkeep

  • When you’re super ambitious, it’s difficult to stop overworking (though it’s a strength) but it’s so important. Solo time, exercising your mental health and shutting down from social media are key! x
    Maya Not Mya

    • PREACH! Have you stepped away from social media? Do you have any tips?

      • Well I work in marketing so avoiding social media is impossible – plus its fun haha and I’m a bit addicted to twitter and insta ???? but I try to reduce my technology use at home (no phone, no laptop, tv…) by reading, writing lists/goals or creative writing (or food, let’s be honest)…any productive!

        • I’m trying to plan a short weekend getaway where I basically go off grid and it’s giving me anxiety just thinking about not instgramming hahaha. Oh love the idea of creative writing, I usually end up cooking-we are two peas in a pod haha

  • I try and take one day off in the week from Social Media. Sometimes it is a weekend and other times a weekday. Just one day does wonders. Also, I often sign out on personal vacation time. I love it. It also leaves your audience wanting for more, which is always a good thing. 🙂

    ❥ tanvii.com

    • I need to do more of that. I believe you did that for Paris, right? People were so confused and wanted more-I could see in the comments! Definitely looking forward to doing it more. I JUST LOVE INSTAGRAM 🙁